I’m sure you’re wondering by now…Why all the different emojis??…Well, if no one understands me..my ladies know exactly what I’m talking about. We go through sooooo many different emotions during our “monthly love”; happy, sad, furious, agitated…YOU NAMMMMEEEE IT!!!!!!
PMS is NOTHING to play with because your hormones can sometimes get the best of you and cause you to act out in many different ways that’s not always aligned with who YOU are as a person. It can cloud your thoughts and cause you to make decisions from an emotionally unhealthy place.
When I first got into my 20’s, I started to have SEVERE PMS. I would make RUSH decisions, spazz out on my loved ones, my eating habits was out of control, anxiety would come over me…I was basically what I call “Going through the motions”.
Even though each thing I named was bad…the worse for me was my anxiety. At one point I started to feel like I wasn’t in control of myself…
YES, IT WAS “THAT” BAD. However, after MUCH PRAYER…& being FED UP. I made a vow that THIS won’t control me..and that I would control it…I started to research solutions to help me.
I was desperate to find solutions to help my problem, after researching, I quickly tried different solutions….eating certain healthy foods such as; grapes, fruit-n-yogurt, watermelon. My favorite was the grapes, and now I’m addicted to them. Shockingly, this helped me with my P-M-S. I have also realized that when I feel the anxiety coming on me, I quickly grab hold of myself and allow those “
RUSH” feelings to past. I try my best not to make decisions in that moment, I have to STOP, BREATHE, PRAY, and most of the time once I give it a few minutes, my symptoms are gone and I feel just fine.
What’s troubling is that most women talk about the symptoms from their monthly love as something “
normal” during that time, therefore; making allowances for their own erratic behavior. When I say NORMAL, I mean they talk about it as if people are “automatically” supposed to excuse them for “Acting” a certain way. I personally know people who have had trouble in their marriage because their wives are severely angry, spazz out for no reason, or simply just exemplifies bad communication or has the tendency to make crazy decisions. & some people even treat their children unfairly because of it.
Now I’m sure many women are reading this saying…WE’LL IT’S APART OF LIFE, THEY NEED TO GET OVER IT!!!!
..even though it’s, “
apart of life” what we must understand is that, it’s not our children, spouses, family members, or friends fault that we’re experiencing this “hormonal imbalance”…..
I agree, yes there should be some level of understanding, however; we must not allow ourselves to jump off the deep end and have no regards to how it’s affecting our loved ones. I can honestly say that I have much better control over my emotions when I’m going through that uncomfortable time in my life. If I’m around a bunch of family, I hurry to excuse myself so that no one feel the “Wrath” of my out of control emotions. I give myself the green light to be present in that moment, allow it to pass, and ultimately get back to whatever it was that I was doing before those emotions came. If I don’t give myself time to “Calm Down”, someone around me will begin to feel the “Wrath” of whatever emotions I’m feeling at the time.
We must stop making excuses for our behavior and actually find different methods to see what will work best for us. Chocolate used to be my
“Quick Fix”, but all of that sugar was actually making my symptoms worse!!! I wanted to try healthy solutions to see if that would work better, and it did!!!
We must take control of those emotions, instead of allowing it to control us!!!!!!!!! Google different solutions, and monitor your body to see which things either “help” or “hurt” your body. You will often find out that a simple job around your house may help, a simple prayer, a certain food, taking a breather, or laying down etc.
Prayer: Father God, We first off want to say Thank You for being who you are; a loving, caring, and compassionate God, who cares about our well being!! Thank You for helping us take control over our emotions, and reclaiming our sanity back during these uncomfortable times of the month, and in some cases- ALL YEAR ROUND. Help us to find remedies that work specifically for our bodies, so that we can experience relief in our out of control emotions. Help us to be aware of other people’s feelings and not allow what we’re going through to handicap us from taking responsibility for our actions. You understand what we’re going through, but most importantly you are a healer of all things. We shall NOT, be angry. We shall NOT, blame others for our out of control emotions. We shall NOT, be insensitive to the harm we cause to our family during that time. Our marriages SHALL LAST. Our friendships SHALL LAST. We Shall subdue our emotions in the moment, and take control. In Jesus Name, Amen.